Assess Your Fear

Now write down what you fear they might do, to you or someone else

Here is a list that might help you to get started:

  • Phone or text
  • Contact you or your friends by email, Twitter or Facebook
  • Use the Internet to embarrass, upset or humiliate you
  • Use intimate information they have about you to blackmail or control you
  • Follow you or people close to you
  • Spy on you
  • Hurt you or people close to you – your children or family
  • Hurt or kill your family pets
  • Make trouble for you at work
  • Use ways of tracking you
  • Break into your home and hurt you there
  • Interfere with your car so that it is unsafe
  • Push you to a mental breakdown
  • Push you to suicide
  • Kill you, your children or someone close to you

Who is being affected by this unwanted behaviour?

Stalking affects those close to the ‘primary victim’ too. Who else could be at risk? The following are common targets in stalking cases:

  • People the victim cares about
  • Children
  • Parents
  • Partners
  • Children
  • Brothers and sisters
  • Pets
  • Colleagues or friends who do not cooperate by giving information or refuse to take messages
  • People who are in the wrong place at the wrong time who get in the way

You can help those close to you by telling them what is going on and asking them to be careful about what they say and do.

People may helpfully answer an innocent sounding question about you, without realising they’re informing your stalker.. 

Just look at all the information that was given away here………

A ‘friendly’ stalker asks your colleague ‘Is Linda around today?’

Your colleague replies….’Oh no. She’s been at home all week with a broken arm from a skiing accident on holiday with her new friend.’

At home right now – weakened by broken arm  – has a new friend – went away with them.


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