What is Stalking?

What is Stalking? It’s unwanted, repeated, obsessive and controlling behaviours that make you distressed or scared.

Stalkers behave in many different ways, including:

  • Repeatedly, phoning, texting or emailing you
  • Repeatedly using the Internet to publish information about you
  • Repeatedly pretending to be you on the Internet and posting information
  • Repeatedly monitoring you online
  • Repeatedly watching or spying on you
  • Repeatedly following or waiting for you
  • Repeatedly going to your home or place of work
  • Repeatedly sending unwanted letters or gifts
  • Repeatedly ordering or cancelling goods in your name
  • Repeatedly damaging your possessions
  • Repeatedly stealing your personal property
  • Persistently trying to find out personal information about you
  • Making threats to hurt you
  • Making threats to hurt those close to you
  • Making threats to hurt your children
  • Contacting your friends and people close to you
  • Contacting your workplace and colleagues
  • Sending obscene or sexually explicit messages
  • Threatening to commit suicide

Stalking can seem trivial at first but if someone’s behaviour patterns are upsetting or frightening you, take it seriously.

You may find it difficult to tell other people about what is happening. Perhaps you’re worried about what they will say? Whether they will believe you? Think you are making a fuss about nothing? Even make fun of you?

It is important to tell people, your safety may depend upon other people knowing

It all usually starts because someone wants:

  • To have a relationship that you don’t want
  • Revenge for a real or imagined situation
  • Sometimes a bit of both

We want to help you decide:

Family and Close Friends

If you’re worried that someone you care about is being stalked, please take it seriously.  When close family and friends believe and trust a victim’s fear, it can really help.  You can  contact agencies on behalf of the person being affected or get in touch with organisations that can help on our Contacts page.

Perhaps you might be more worried than the person seems themselves. This can be difficult but trust your instinct. We hope that the information on this website will help you to understand the risks, and help you to have a conversation with the victim – if only to signpost them to this website.

Thank You for caring…